Given describing a child as “it” and only the work involved and not the reward, if you want to dig deeper within yourself I would look at reading positive discu

Given describing a child as “it” and only the work involved and not the reward, if you want to dig deeper within yourself I would look at reading positive discussions about kids There was an instagram comment feed (of all places) where the OP asked people to post what their reservation for kids were, and many parents responded to those positively The next post asked parents to post what they were surprised most about being a parent. Some common themes were “I was afraid I wouldn’t like/feel attached to my child” and “I was afraid I would resent my child for the time commitment.” For the latter, dozens of responses say that something within them switched, and they wanted to bear the responsibility. It was fulfilling like a hobby may be, but deeper. Personally I don’t like the rhetoric that describe (others, not you) kids as leeches that take time and money, i think thats toxic to our society. If you know yourself and know you don’t want kids, then it’s best for everyone involved not to have them.