You do seem to be basically describing ADHD. Most people can direct their focus on something that doesn't immediately stimulate them, if they have the motivatio

You do seem to be basically describing ADHD. Most people can direct their focus on something that doesn't immediately stimulate them, if they have the motivation for it. (while I'm not claiming this is exactly the situation, your posts put me in mind of the projection of some homophobes: (heavily paraphrasing:) "Well, of course everyone finds their own gender sexy, the gays just don't resist that impulse!" -> "Well of course everyone finds focus extremely difficult except for on a few specific activities, just some are using a disorder as an excuse!")