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Literally whenever someone crosses my mind I shoot them a text, "Hey zokier, I was thinking about ya! Hope you're well!" Trivially easy and people treat me lik

• em-bee 2y ago
  Ich weiß von alters her, daß man entfernten Freunden gar nicht schreibt, wenn man darauf warten will, bis man ihnen etwas zu schreiben hat. Johann Wolfgang von Goethe i know for a long time that you don't ever write to distant friends if you want to wait until you have something worth writing about. i found this in a collection of quotes. i don't know if it is verified as genuine, but that doesn't matter. the sentiment expressed makes sense either way. i sent that quote to a friend that i haven't talked to in a while, followed by "how are you?" which then led to a nice conversation catching up. the thing is that doing this is a lot easier than suddenly talking to someone because you actually want something from them. compare for example the discussions here on HN on how we need to build a network to help us find jobs. the part that i am struggling with is that i don't usually keep in touch often enough with the people in my network so that asking anyone to help me find a job feels rather awkward. i'd rather just message people out of the blue for no reason at all instead of waiting until i seriously need their help.