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Considering personal relationships as "investments" of sorts disgusts me to the core...

• greg_V 2y ago
  out of all the metaphors the author could've used. why not just go with a gardening example? friendships grow like trees, they need tending and they grow stronger with age. especially because we're all familiar with friendships that turn out to be purely transactional relationships like with drinking buddies which fizzle out as soon as the activity itself is no longer welcoming. treating friendships literally as investments encourages surface level transactional relationships, which is the opposite of what you'd want to be happy!
  • TeMPOraL 2y ago
    > out of all the metaphors the author could've used. why not just go with a gardening example? friendships grow like trees, they need tending and they grow stronger with age. IDK, people generally grow and care for trees as investments (wood, fruit), research, or sometimes maybe a hobby. Not sure which one would apply to friendships best.
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• 01HNNWZ0MV43FF 2y ago
  Do you put effort into relationships without thinking of which ones will give you some benefit, even an intangible one like feeling good?
  • 331c8c71 2y ago
    Nah, outside of my family I just hang out with people I click with.
    • 01HNNWZ0MV43FF 2y ago
      I assert that the difference between normal friendship ("I hang out with people I click with") and the way some define transactional relationships ("I put effort in proportional to what I can get from someone")... Is a difference of intention and vibes, not a real concrete measurable difference. I think everyone values people for what they can do for them. It's only called narcissism or Machiavellianism when you mess it up and hurt someone