I always felt since I was in high school that if I wasn't looking for anyone, they would never find me. Like I always had to put something into the relationship

I always felt since I was in high school that if I wasn't looking for anyone, they would never find me. Like I always had to put something into the relationship because the other person never would. I was never sought out by any company. So as the years went by I was less and less motivated to make new friends