I've found as an adult that most people don't seem to be looking for new friends, not really They either have a well established group of friends, or they have

I've found as an adult that most people don't seem to be looking for new friends, not really They either have a well established group of friends, or they have other things keeping them too busy for new friends New friends kind of take a lot of work! If you don't spend time together it's very easy for it to slide away. So to make new friends you have to have some shared free time that you're both willing to give up to try and build that friendship That's why so much advice about making friends isn't about the person, it's about finding a shared activity to spend time with that person. So you're both still making use of that time even if the friendship winds up not working out