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Reading through more of the article: > I knew that I technically had friends, but none of them ever seemed to want to hang out. Even if the six-pack friend sti
by pavel_lishin 2y ago
Reading through more of the article:
> I knew that I technically had friends, but none of them ever seemed to want to hang out. Even if the six-pack friend still lived in Brooklyn, I had a hunch that now that she has a toddler, her visits wouldn’t be as frequent or as spontaneous as they had been a decade ago. I couldn’t remember the last time I had gotten a text that said something like “what’s up tonight?”
When was the last time the author sent a text? Why is it on the friend with the toddler to initiate? The author knows she has a friend close by, a friend whose time is now limited - so make the effort, damn you, take the subway to Brooklyn and hang out at 2pm at the playground. Or hell, plenty of bars are perfectly happy to serve a beer to someone with a baby stroller while the baby takes a nap.
Does this person actually like this friend, or did she just like the things they did together?
- abakker 2y agoas a person with a toddler, I would LOVE if more people wanted to hang out. having a young child is very tough if you already have a job, but when my friends join me for walks where I push my daughter around in a stroller, its great. Having a toddler does not make people want to be alone!
- bombcar 2y agoIt gets exponentially worse because every parent is aware of how their kid can be difficult, and so you really start to have this inclination to not inflict them on your friends, which makes it worse and a cycle begins. Having the friend reach out helps tremendously.