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It might be sad for the social/economical future, but it’s really not sad for people who are not having kids in their 20s. They might regret it in the future, b
by kredd 2y ago
It might be sad for the social/economical future, but it’s really not sad for people who are not having kids in their 20s. They might regret it in the future, but as of now, their decisions are pretty solid and logical, if you think about the opportunity loss.
Within my circles, especially my girl friends, are having one child around mid-30s as they don’t want to give up on their careers. Even worse to be completely depended on their partners as that gives them less choices in life. Cannot blame them, it’s easy for me to want a child, but imagining to go through 3 pregnancies (basically to increase the population) in their 20s is giving up on everything that everyone else gets to do at that age.
- rustcleaner 2y agoWhat opportunity? To be one of the 2% rockstars? To earn 2x median in a city with a CoL 2.5x? End up in mid-late middle age and realize you're going to die alone if you don't act (ladies: if you get here you are screwed on fertility; do not get here unless you 100% intend to)? What is the opportunity value of a spouse and five grown and integrated children when you're 62 and joints worn out? Likely not ending up in a nursing home unless you were an asshat disciplinarian. Government and pension could collapse and you would be relatively peachy. See? Lots of benefits and your children appreciate over time as investments, unlike most things you can blow your opportunity-money on! One day you will lose your biological faculties and then some day soon after you will die. Caveat emptor, and plan accordingly.
- j7ake 2y agoFor the same working opportunities as men get in their 20s and 30s.
- kredd 2y agoKnowing my girl friends, if you said the same thing to them, they would probably laugh at you and continue enjoying their lives. Like it’s really not that bad out there. There are ups and downs, but we live in decent cities, have fun, find fulfilment in things other than children.