It sounds like you think you should do some programming outside of work - that if you don't, there's something wrong with you. But I think you don't have to ha

It sounds like you think you should do some programming outside of work - that if you don't, there's something wrong with you. But I think you don't have to have something programming to do out of work. You can have a wonderful, full life without it. I mean, you need something to do outside of work, but it doesn't have to be programming. Go hiking. Play ultimate frisbee. Join a band or a choir. Become a Big Brother or Sister. Volunteer at an animal shelter. Teach some disadvantaged youth how to code. Get involved at a church or a homeless shelter. Find your thing and do it. It doesn't have to be programming. (And, if you haven't found the programming thing yet, I think that's telling you that programming isn't the thing you're looking for.)