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As a parent, I’ve recognized advice I’ve given as advice I received when younger. I always tried to take good advice, but so often the words can only truly be
by DougN7 2y ago
As a parent, I’ve recognized advice I’ve given as advice I received when younger. I always tried to take good advice, but so often the words can only truly be understood, to their depth, by having compatible experience. The same words have tremendously different meaning to someone that has been there vs someone who’s never experienced the topic. After pondering about this, I don’t think there is a ‘fix’. We do our best to help, but have to patiently wait for the other person to gain their own experience. THEN nuances can be given as advice.
- coffeebeqn 2y agoWe usually learn when there are repercussions. Otherwise you can keep thinking maybe you’re the exception. Advice doesn’t have any kind of feedback mechanism to your life. But when you get fired or broken up with or diabetes - well now your life is completely upended and only a total fool would not learn something at that point
- DougN7 2y agoYou’re right. It bugs me that pain teaches but fun doesn’t. Not much to do about it though.