Yes to 2, BIG yes to 3, a “special” spelling is a curse, why do that to your kid? I do prefer full versions for the name instead of shortenings or nicknames. I

Yes to 2, BIG yes to 3, a “special” spelling is a curse, why do that to your kid? I do prefer full versions for the name instead of shortenings or nicknames. I think it lets them feel freer, earlier, to switch to the full version if they like it better than the nickname or shortened version. More options.