Actively create and take opportunities to meet people. "Your people" in the sense you are looking for are relatively rare, you need to meet a lot of people to f

Actively create and take opportunities to meet people. "Your people" in the sense you are looking for are relatively rare, you need to meet a lot of people to find them. 14 years ago I had one friend in a small town and my nearest other friends were 2 hours away and then the rest about 9 hours away (by car, longer by plane, and trains aren't an option in most of the US) or further. I joined a local church group for young adults, joined a soccer team, went to a comic/gaming shop and played a TTRPG most Saturday nights, joined a gym (BJJ), and actively invited everyone I liked well enough (more than tolerated, but didn't have to be friends with yet) to almost any group activity I put on or was going to and encouraged people to invite their own friends and acquaintances. In the end I'd want to have a potluck at my place and I'd invite 50 people directly from the large social group I'd put together, of that group about 10-15 were what you seem to mean by "your people". Most of those were not people I had personally invited into the social group. We found each other because I created the opportunity to meet them and they took it.