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Responding a compliment is a skill in itself. Less is more. A simple : "thanks for saying that" , is adequate. I assure you nobody is keeping score. People
by tonymet 2y ago
Responding a compliment is a skill in itself. Less is more. A simple : "thanks for saying that" , is adequate.
I assure you nobody is keeping score. People are so self-concerned that they honestly won't remember what you said, only the feeling they had when you said it.
- dataflow 2y ago> only the feeling they had when you said it. The kind of situation I'm worried about is exactly what would affect this though. Like say your friend went on what was supposed to be a fun trip they'd planned for months, but then their dad died in the middle. And you didn't write it down and just forgot it. So they come back and instead of "how're you doing?" or "I'm sorry to hear about your dad" you instead go "did you have fun partying?" or "how was the celebration?" or whatever. They probably wouldn't feel so great hearing you remembering the wrong thing?
- tonymet 2y agoit's good that you are so empathetic. even more of a reason to use this method. everyone will have gaffes that's natural. practice makes perfect. I still mix up names and make mistakes from time to time, usually because I overthink things and worry about getting them mixed up.