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Most people you know who are good at remembering things like your kids names are usually just good at journaling. I recommend journaling your conversations .

Most people you know who are good at remembering things like your kids names are usually just good at journaling. I recommend journaling your conversations . If your friend tells you his kids got sick, write it down so you can ask him about how they're doing the next time. Your friends and family are many times more important than your bills and appointments, so treat them with the requisite level of attention.

saulpw 2y ago
Where do you write it down? I write a lot of things down but then can never find the information when it's relevant.
- knoebber 2y ago
  the act of writing it down probably makes them remember it.
  - hackeraccount 2y ago
    This is absolutely the case with me. When I need to remember something I'm reading I'll read a part then write a summary. It makes me slow down for a bit and think about what I've read. Same thing with meetings. Going back later and re-reading the notes is something I rarely do.
- gre 2y ago
  You can send yourself signal messages and search them. It's not writing though. You could write it down, take a picture, and send it to yourself in signal if you must write it.
- sn 2y ago
  https://zim-wiki.org/ https://zim-wiki.org/
- tonymet 2y ago
  apple notes and paper journals.
- Zambyte 2y ago
  I use org-roam in Emacs. It is extremely easy for me to find things I am interested in in my collection of 3000+ notes. The key features you want to look for are hyperlinking and backlinking.
dataflow 2y ago
Dumb question, but what do you do when they go e.g. "oh wow, you remembered/good memory!" to something you wrote a reminder for that they didn't expect you to remember? Nod and pretend it was your memory? Just disregard the comment? Or tell them you wrote it down...? It feels a little bit awkward for people to think you remembered them only to realize you just wrote it down and forgot until your notes reminded you. Edit: Also, if they never realize what you're doing, then doesn't it become even more awkward when you suddenly forget something that you didn't happen to write down, especially when that thing seems easier to remember than what you normally appeared to? (e.g., "how did he remember the party I was going to a month ago but not the fact that my dad was in the hospital last week??")
- theossuary 2y ago
  This is a good example of when saying less is better. Having journaled or written things down doesn't mean you didn't remember. If they compliment your memory, accept it! You did remember. If you missed something later, for any reason, well then you just didn't remember, it happens to everyone. I personally keep notes on my friends and if they mention something, a like, a dislike, a desire or aspiration or goal, I write it down. In years of doing this, I've never had anyone think it was anything but very flattering if they found out, and I'd let them read theirs haha. Being friends means thinking about them, and putting in effort. If I found out a friend journaled each day and thought enough of our conversations to include them, well I'd be flattered too.
  - SOLAR_FIELDS 2y ago
    My understanding is that the software Monica/Chandler is built around this concept
  - throwup238 2y ago
    > In years of doing this, I've never had anyone think it was anything but very flattering if they found out, and I'd let them read theirs haha. You really need to know your audience when you do this. My associates were none too happy to find out that I was taking notes on their criminal conspiracies.
serf 2y ago
> If your friend tells you his kids got sick, write it down so you can ask him about how they're doing the next time. there are limits that should be set to this kind of behavior. some people, my parents are good examples, will tell you about the distant great-cousin of their favorite liquor store attendant who once met the hair-dresser of a long-past rockstar that was big in the 1940s. it's not all journal-worthy is what i'm getting at. I already have RSIs. But I agree that it does tend to delight people when you remember the stuff that's actually important to them.
- tonymet 2y ago
  you'll realize even the minutiae has value . About 6 years ago I started assembling a family tree & biography for my mom and logging these stories helped. It only seems tedious because we're trained to value the wrong things. Think of how much pointless and transient time is spent on fleeting trivia . If someone is telling you something, that means it matters to them, and having it matter to you as well is what matters.
FuckButtons 2y ago
That would require me to remember a conversation that I’ve had in the first place.
gehwartzen 2y ago
Is there a good App that anyone can recommend to do this with speech to text? Something simple; just a searchable daily log that records bullets and timestamps with whatever I recorded. Ideally something that requires one click, tap, or shortcut to immediately allow transcribing to the correct entry page.
- neom 2y ago
  I have not found anything good yet, and I too am on the edge of my seat waiting for this. I google every couple of weeks to see if there is anything new, but I tried most easy to find solutions including looking around HN for solutions, and found nothing high quality out of the box. My interm solution is a tula recorder and a kinda version of this-ish: https://thomasjfrank.com/how-to-transcribe-audio-to-text-with-chatgpt-and-notion/ https://thomasjfrank.com/how-to-transcribe-audio-to-text-wit...
- chrisweekly 2y ago
  Obsidian mobile app for iOS comes close: open the app (which per my one-time config creates or opens today's daily note), tap the mic icon and talk.
- twojacobtwo 2y ago
  I dont know about timestamps, but this one was showing promise when i tried it last year: https://a9.io/voiceliner/ https://a9.io/voiceliner/

saulpw 2y ago

Where do you write it down? I write a lot of things down but then can never find the information when it's relevant.

knoebber 2y ago
the act of writing it down probably makes them remember it.
- hackeraccount 2y ago
  This is absolutely the case with me. When I need to remember something I'm reading I'll read a part then write a summary. It makes me slow down for a bit and think about what I've read. Same thing with meetings. Going back later and re-reading the notes is something I rarely do.
gre 2y ago
You can send yourself signal messages and search them. It's not writing though. You could write it down, take a picture, and send it to yourself in signal if you must write it.
sn 2y ago
https://zim-wiki.org/ https://zim-wiki.org/
tonymet 2y ago
apple notes and paper journals.
Zambyte 2y ago
I use org-roam in Emacs. It is extremely easy for me to find things I am interested in in my collection of 3000+ notes. The key features you want to look for are hyperlinking and backlinking.

dataflow 2y ago

Dumb question, but what do you do when they go e.g. "oh wow, you remembered/good memory!" to something you wrote a reminder for that they didn't expect you to remember? Nod and pretend it was your memory? Just disregard the comment? Or tell them you wrote it down...? It feels a little bit awkward for people to think you remembered them only to realize you just wrote it down and forgot until your notes reminded you. Edit: Also, if they never realize what you're doing, then doesn't it become even more awkward when you suddenly forget something that you didn't happen to write down, especially when that thing seems easier to remember than what you normally appeared to? (e.g., "how did he remember the party I was going to a month ago but not the fact that my dad was in the hospital last week??")

theossuary 2y ago
This is a good example of when saying less is better. Having journaled or written things down doesn't mean you didn't remember. If they compliment your memory, accept it! You did remember. If you missed something later, for any reason, well then you just didn't remember, it happens to everyone. I personally keep notes on my friends and if they mention something, a like, a dislike, a desire or aspiration or goal, I write it down. In years of doing this, I've never had anyone think it was anything but very flattering if they found out, and I'd let them read theirs haha. Being friends means thinking about them, and putting in effort. If I found out a friend journaled each day and thought enough of our conversations to include them, well I'd be flattered too.
- SOLAR_FIELDS 2y ago
  My understanding is that the software Monica/Chandler is built around this concept
- throwup238 2y ago
  > In years of doing this, I've never had anyone think it was anything but very flattering if they found out, and I'd let them read theirs haha. You really need to know your audience when you do this. My associates were none too happy to find out that I was taking notes on their criminal conspiracies.

serf 2y ago

> If your friend tells you his kids got sick, write it down so you can ask him about how they're doing the next time. there are limits that should be set to this kind of behavior. some people, my parents are good examples, will tell you about the distant great-cousin of their favorite liquor store attendant who once met the hair-dresser of a long-past rockstar that was big in the 1940s. it's not all journal-worthy is what i'm getting at. I already have RSIs. But I agree that it does tend to delight people when you remember the stuff that's actually important to them.

tonymet 2y ago
you'll realize even the minutiae has value . About 6 years ago I started assembling a family tree & biography for my mom and logging these stories helped. It only seems tedious because we're trained to value the wrong things. Think of how much pointless and transient time is spent on fleeting trivia . If someone is telling you something, that means it matters to them, and having it matter to you as well is what matters.

FuckButtons 2y ago

That would require me to remember a conversation that I’ve had in the first place.

gehwartzen 2y ago

Is there a good App that anyone can recommend to do this with speech to text? Something simple; just a searchable daily log that records bullets and timestamps with whatever I recorded. Ideally something that requires one click, tap, or shortcut to immediately allow transcribing to the correct entry page.

neom 2y ago
I have not found anything good yet, and I too am on the edge of my seat waiting for this. I google every couple of weeks to see if there is anything new, but I tried most easy to find solutions including looking around HN for solutions, and found nothing high quality out of the box. My interm solution is a tula recorder and a kinda version of this-ish: https://thomasjfrank.com/how-to-transcribe-audio-to-text-with-chatgpt-and-notion/ https://thomasjfrank.com/how-to-transcribe-audio-to-text-wit...
chrisweekly 2y ago
Obsidian mobile app for iOS comes close: open the app (which per my one-time config creates or opens today's daily note), tap the mic icon and talk.
twojacobtwo 2y ago
I dont know about timestamps, but this one was showing promise when i tried it last year: https://a9.io/voiceliner/ https://a9.io/voiceliner/