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With these types of convos you can go usually one of two ways: 1. Re-iterate your points, counter points, data, etc. 2. Acknowledge their point, assume it to
by inSenCite 2y ago
With these types of convos you can go usually one of two ways:
1. Re-iterate your points, counter points, data, etc.
2. Acknowledge their point, assume it to be true and ask questions to clarify their point by digging further into the details
In my exp, method 1 generally does not lead to much. Method 2 will either give YOU a new perspective on things OR the other person will back off once they hit rock bottom and think twice before bringing up nonsensical points with you.
It is MUCH MUCH harder going down path 2 as it requires you to put YOUR point/perspective aside for a while and empathize with their view. But being able to cross-question people like this is an incredibly useful skill worth developing.
As an introvert, you are inherently more curious. Use that to your advantage.
- financltravsty 2y ago#2 is basic practical conversation -- i.e. put your damn ego aside and actually interact with the person in front of you. Granted this can become exhausting with people who socialize without any care for those around them; but this is basic soft skills 101 lesson... 3.
- MrJohz 2y agoOne great piece of advice that I heard is "it takes two to miscommunicate". Communication is fundamentally two-way, and if there is miscommunication happening, either you or the other person needs to figure out how to communicate better and close the gap. If they're not doing that, then you need to step up. Like you say, sometimes that can be exhausting if you're dealing with a particularly bad communicator. You don't want to be the one doing all the work, all the time. On the other hand, if communication needs to happen, then you need to figure out a way to get that communication to happen otherwise you're going to really struggle.
- marci 2y agoI don't think the Socratic method is basic, but it sure is practical.
- Havoc 2y agoOption 2 has high risk of making enemies. People don’t like to be shown that they are idiots even if true. There is a reason Socratic method is used primarily in a class room setting
- naasking 2y agoYou don't have to make them look like an idiot. It's simply a matter of asking why they believe what they do. Maybe they ha r some kind of personal experience or education you're not aware of.