So there is a trick - don't look at people's pupils. Look at their eyelids or eyebrows, or the bridge of their nose. It is close enough to eye contact that it w

So there is a trick - don't look at people's pupils. Look at their eyelids or eyebrows, or the bridge of their nose. It is close enough to eye contact that it won't be uncomfortable for you. Most people do not stare directly into each other's eyes - they just look in that general direction. And think about this a bit - if you feel defeated after talking to people who stare into your eyes... is that how you want people to feel after talking to you? Maybe it is just as well not to be one of the people with piercing eye contact.