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Many say this cultural stigma and discomfort against casual interactions with the opposite gender is the main source behind the "pervy Indian male" stereotype.

Many say this cultural stigma and discomfort against casual interactions with the opposite gender is the main source behind the "pervy Indian male" stereotype. It is natural that a man won't have a comfortable presence around women if he was simply never raised with healthy female interactions, and such cases are unfortunately prevalent in rural India. But it is true that there are extreme differences regarding this across the diverse sections of Indian society. The tech/management crowd in cities like Bangalore and Hyderabad is practically indistinguishable in its tendencies as against similar crowds in the West, for example. > I have many colleagues in India and especially the ones from rural areas are experiencing extreme pressure from their families to get married in their early 20s. If they don't hurry up finding a partner their families find one for them, and if they refuse they get discommunicated completely. LOL, Is there some kind of massive inheritence waiting for your friends that they stand to lose if they don't get married on time?

wkat4242 2y ago
> But it is true that there are extreme differences regarding this across the diverse sections of Indian society. The tech/management crowd in cities like Bangalore and Hyderabad is practically indistinguishable in its tendencies as against similar crowds in the West, for example. Yes I think also that Modi's conservative success is based on this, a lot of the rural hindus seem to view the tech centres as "cities of sin" and view them as running out of control. It is a very diverse country of course. They don't all emancipate at the same speed. > LOL, Is there some kind of massive inheritence waiting for your friends that they stand to lose if they don't get married on time? No, they come from pretty humble backgrounds generally, but the prospect of losing touch with their family is a much bigger deterrent as far as I understand. One of my friends said her family wasn't really to blame either, as they would be ostracised in the village too. Not even for her 'living in sin' so to say (I'm not sure if that's even a thing there) but because her family attended many wedding parties and it's expected to reciprocate. There's a lot of social pressure on them too. At least this is how I understood it. I'm sure my understanding is coloured through the lens of my western background.

wkat4242 2y ago

> But it is true that there are extreme differences regarding this across the diverse sections of Indian society. The tech/management crowd in cities like Bangalore and Hyderabad is practically indistinguishable in its tendencies as against similar crowds in the West, for example. Yes I think also that Modi's conservative success is based on this, a lot of the rural hindus seem to view the tech centres as "cities of sin" and view them as running out of control. It is a very diverse country of course. They don't all emancipate at the same speed. > LOL, Is there some kind of massive inheritence waiting for your friends that they stand to lose if they don't get married on time? No, they come from pretty humble backgrounds generally, but the prospect of losing touch with their family is a much bigger deterrent as far as I understand. One of my friends said her family wasn't really to blame either, as they would be ostracised in the village too. Not even for her 'living in sin' so to say (I'm not sure if that's even a thing there) but because her family attended many wedding parties and it's expected to reciprocate. There's a lot of social pressure on them too. At least this is how I understood it. I'm sure my understanding is coloured through the lens of my western background.