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I read it correctly - I just wanted to allude to the fact that your advice to them was super incongruent with their psychology. These people are compelled to co

I read it correctly - I just wanted to allude to the fact that your advice to them was super incongruent with their psychology. These people are compelled to control their family members. You’re right that they should bow out of any relationships, but it’s like trying to tell a bear not to eat meat. They don’t need to do it to survive, but their compulsion to do so cannot be overridden.

TheNewsIsHere 2y ago
It’s quite right to frame it as a matter of psychology and controlling impulse. That’s exactly what it is. In one respect this isn’t something that can be reasoned with. Not that change is necessarily impossible for all, but in these situations change isn’t likely, and relapsing to controlling behavior is common, as is escalation. People on the other side of this abuse are best served by plotting a thoughtful (and assisted if possible) exit strategy for themselves and those that rely on them (children, pets, etc). Although where others are involved, taking legal advice is a very good idea. This can be much different from the insecure and spy-minded snooping significant other who occasionally looks through their SO’s texts surreptitiously. Although I have a problem with that too, installing surveillance is absolutely next level.