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Good article, but one thing I'd like to add from my own experience, is that we interpret a difficulty in communication when people have different styles, when t
by mihaic 2y ago
Good article, but one thing I'd like to add from my own experience, is that we interpret a difficulty in communication when people have different styles, when the problem sometimes is that the message itself is rejected regardless how we present it.
That is, a reason why people with similar communication styles understand each other is also that they pretty much have the same concepts and even conclusions in their mind, and they actually communicate very little new information to one another.
Failures in communication for me seem to be often on the listener side, and we keep telling people to communicate better, without spending the equal amount of effort on providing people with listening and comprehension skills.
- hiatus 2y agoTo be fair, it seems easier to change how you say something than to change how you perceive something.
- mihaic 2y agoThat's true, but it's not only about perception. It's about teaching people for instance that if something sounds stupid, maybe they're missing something, or that the other person has a different set of assumptions. They could still be wrong, but most likely they aren't stupid, and that understanding has to be practiced.
- cbsmith 2y agoIt's more than that though. If you assume that you are missing something or the other person has a different set of assumptions, efforts to explore what that missing piece might be are often perceived as claims that they are stupid.
- mihaic 2y agoYes, I completely agree, I just was giving an example. So it turns out some ideas are hard to explain even if you already agree :)