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...if you want one. Like, really want one. Can't take it back once it's done. If you're unsure, spend time with parents. See the work they put in. Determine if
by nunez 2y ago
...if you want one. Like, really want one. Can't take it back once it's done.
If you're unsure, spend time with parents. See the work they put in. Determine if you can live with that.
Everything the OP said isn't necessarily wrong (I don't have kids but have heard similar sentiments), but they are glossing over the ABSOLUTE INSANE FUCKTON of work that he/she/they've put in up to this point.
- silverquiet 2y agoYes, I don’t think the whole “it’s a life changing, all-consuming experience” people are selling it as well as they think they are. Not all of us want drastic life changes, and if you look at time studies, it seems that people are spending more time on child rearing than ever and that’s in addition to more time at work. I assume sleep and social time are non existent. If it was something like, “kids are pretty good but we still get to hang out with friends and do some sports and dancing like we always did”, I think it would be a better pitch.
- boppo1 2y agoThe atomization of families and living far from parents has something to do with this. Was easier when you could dump 'em on grandma for a few hours on friday.
- aidenn0 2y ago> Everything the OP said isn't necessarily wrong (I don't have kids but have heard similar sentiments), but they are glossing over the ABSOLUTE INSANE FUCKTON of work that he/she/they've put in up to this point. I do have kids, so consider me a single data point that what OP describes is not universal. I certainly haven't experienced anything even remotely describable as a "mystical oneness of all things" despite having 4 children. If you prefer data, 20% of fathers are classified as "absent" by the US census SIPP.