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Maybe im missing something but what is so strange about that? Once you stopped training them and thanked you, what else are they supposed to thank you for every

Maybe im missing something but what is so strange about that? Once you stopped training them and thanked you, what else are they supposed to thank you for everyday?

optimalsolver 2y ago
And yet I'm sure they managed to think up something to say to people higher in status than themselves.
- piuantiderp 2y ago
  Yes, all primates care about status, including humans.
- s1artibartfast 2y ago
  sure, which is pretty normal, given the real world power dynamics that organizational structures represent. Of course people will go out of their way to play nice with the people to set their pay and promotion.
mensetmanusman 2y ago
Being a non-treadmill human.
trevor-e 2y ago
> what else are they supposed to thank you for everyday OP: > they stopped saying hello or even talking to me The OP said they completely stopped talking, which is weird to not acknowledge someone you previously would talk to. Seems like sociopathic behavior to me, which these professions tend to attract. They got what they wanted/needed out of the relationship and now could care less.
- riku_iki 2y ago
  > Seems like sociopathic behavior to me, which these professions tend to attract. given how cheap is to say hello, and maybe get some advantage from this in the future, this is not very smart sociopathic behavior. But this maybe be result of culture differences: some people grew up in culture where work is work(with all protocols, like saying hello to coworker), and personal life (interhuman behaviour) is something separate.
  - 01HNNWZ0MV43FF 2y ago
    True, if I was a really smart sociopath and a good actor I'd just mask and act like I'm normal so I could extract friendship and true love from people by giving them the same
  - watwut 2y ago
    These people spend pretty much all their time in work. They don't have personal lifes separated from work. Even if they have partner, it is someone they see 30 min a day or something like that.
- billforsternz 2y ago
  Obligatory mention that the more correct and logical formulation is "could NOT care less".
  - trevor-e 2y ago
    Well I was certainly not expecting to come back and find a large comment thread about _this_ part of my comment. The funny thing is I know the proper usage, I was simply typing fast and rephrased my sentence structure a couple times so the "not" got lost in edits. Keep up the good fight though.
  - usui 2y ago
    Thank you for your service to the English language. This tremendous faux pas is so easy to correct just by thinking for a single second the basic logic of what is being said, and yet so many people continue making the mistake. Even worse, sometimes people justify it with a wacky "I care so little that I could care less, but I won't, that's how little I care" explanation.
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    - Retric 2y ago
      It started as a sarcastic statement not a mistake, but it’s been used so often it’s turning into an idium. Languages are full of phrases that get used so often the original meaning gets lost organs others that are heading that way. Raining cats and Dogs is ancient and nobody is quite sure where it came from, but as long as people understand intent there’s no need for to add up correctly.
      - chgs 2y ago
        Given that in English people say “I couldn’t care less”, seeing the complete opposite is somewhat weird.
        2y ago
- KoftaBob 2y ago
  > Seems like sociopathic behavior to me, which these professions tend to attract Yeah professions like finance both attract and reward sociopathic behavior.
- s1artibartfast 2y ago
  It is completely normal human behavior when you work with many people.
  - chgs 2y ago
    I still see people I haven’t worked with for 15+ years. Assuming I recognise them I will nod or say hey if I bump into them in the lift.
    - s1artibartfast 2y ago
      Sure, that seems very normal too. I imagine you still wouldn't say hi to each person when you walk through a trading floor with maybe a hundred people each day.
tomcam 2y ago
In the States saying hello to one’s coworkers is regarded as a common courtesy.
- s1artibartfast 2y ago
  At some point you can't say hi to everyone, which is very normal. I walk by a hundred coworkers a day, and don't greet all of them, it isn't anything personal if I don't. That said, you better believe I Do take the extra 5 seconds to say hi to my bosses when I pass them.
  - lukan 2y ago
    Yes, but if you had a close interaction with one of those hundreds 2 days ago and were very thankful back then - then it is willfully ignoring the lowly peasant, to show them and everyone else, they are now higher in the hierachy.
    - gregoryl 2y ago
      Not really, you're going to meet a whole heap of people in your first few days. It's pretty overwhelming! They person who ran you through some software but otherwise isn't a day-to-day contact isn't going to stick in your head for long!
      - lukan 2y ago
        If you use that software daily, I would disagree. I remember all my (good) instructors. More so if the lesson was 2 days ago.
      - taeric 2y ago
        This doesn't strike me as wrong, but does surprise me. I have had friendly relations with the front desk at most of my positions. And we literally didn't know each other's names. Still nice when they notice a dropped thing of mine. And I didn't get too many chances to help them. Did where I could. And a smile and general conversation is not exactly easy, but you don't get good at things without practice. Heck, janitorial staff should get more than ignored. So yeah, odd to drop into such a divide.

Maybe im missing something but what is so strange about that? Once you stopped training them and thanked you, what else are they supposed to thank you for everyday?

optimalsolver 2y ago

And yet I'm sure they managed to think up something to say to people higher in status than themselves.

piuantiderp 2y ago
Yes, all primates care about status, including humans.
s1artibartfast 2y ago
sure, which is pretty normal, given the real world power dynamics that organizational structures represent. Of course people will go out of their way to play nice with the people to set their pay and promotion.

mensetmanusman 2y ago

Being a non-treadmill human.

trevor-e 2y ago

> what else are they supposed to thank you for everyday OP: > they stopped saying hello or even talking to me The OP said they completely stopped talking, which is weird to not acknowledge someone you previously would talk to. Seems like sociopathic behavior to me, which these professions tend to attract. They got what they wanted/needed out of the relationship and now could care less.

riku_iki 2y ago
> Seems like sociopathic behavior to me, which these professions tend to attract. given how cheap is to say hello, and maybe get some advantage from this in the future, this is not very smart sociopathic behavior. But this maybe be result of culture differences: some people grew up in culture where work is work(with all protocols, like saying hello to coworker), and personal life (interhuman behaviour) is something separate.
- 01HNNWZ0MV43FF 2y ago
  True, if I was a really smart sociopath and a good actor I'd just mask and act like I'm normal so I could extract friendship and true love from people by giving them the same
- watwut 2y ago
  These people spend pretty much all their time in work. They don't have personal lifes separated from work. Even if they have partner, it is someone they see 30 min a day or something like that.
billforsternz 2y ago
Obligatory mention that the more correct and logical formulation is "could NOT care less".
- trevor-e 2y ago
  Well I was certainly not expecting to come back and find a large comment thread about _this_ part of my comment. The funny thing is I know the proper usage, I was simply typing fast and rephrased my sentence structure a couple times so the "not" got lost in edits. Keep up the good fight though.
- usui 2y ago
  Thank you for your service to the English language. This tremendous faux pas is so easy to correct just by thinking for a single second the basic logic of what is being said, and yet so many people continue making the mistake. Even worse, sometimes people justify it with a wacky "I care so little that I could care less, but I won't, that's how little I care" explanation.
  - deleted 2y ago
    [deleted]
  - Retric 2y ago
    It started as a sarcastic statement not a mistake, but it’s been used so often it’s turning into an idium. Languages are full of phrases that get used so often the original meaning gets lost organs others that are heading that way. Raining cats and Dogs is ancient and nobody is quite sure where it came from, but as long as people understand intent there’s no need for to add up correctly.
    - chgs 2y ago
      Given that in English people say “I couldn’t care less”, seeing the complete opposite is somewhat weird.
      - 2y ago
KoftaBob 2y ago
> Seems like sociopathic behavior to me, which these professions tend to attract Yeah professions like finance both attract and reward sociopathic behavior.
s1artibartfast 2y ago
It is completely normal human behavior when you work with many people.
- chgs 2y ago
  I still see people I haven’t worked with for 15+ years. Assuming I recognise them I will nod or say hey if I bump into them in the lift.
  - s1artibartfast 2y ago
    Sure, that seems very normal too. I imagine you still wouldn't say hi to each person when you walk through a trading floor with maybe a hundred people each day.

tomcam 2y ago

In the States saying hello to one’s coworkers is regarded as a common courtesy.

s1artibartfast 2y ago
At some point you can't say hi to everyone, which is very normal. I walk by a hundred coworkers a day, and don't greet all of them, it isn't anything personal if I don't. That said, you better believe I Do take the extra 5 seconds to say hi to my bosses when I pass them.
- lukan 2y ago
  Yes, but if you had a close interaction with one of those hundreds 2 days ago and were very thankful back then - then it is willfully ignoring the lowly peasant, to show them and everyone else, they are now higher in the hierachy.
  - gregoryl 2y ago
    Not really, you're going to meet a whole heap of people in your first few days. It's pretty overwhelming! They person who ran you through some software but otherwise isn't a day-to-day contact isn't going to stick in your head for long!
    - lukan 2y ago
      If you use that software daily, I would disagree. I remember all my (good) instructors. More so if the lesson was 2 days ago.
    - taeric 2y ago
      This doesn't strike me as wrong, but does surprise me. I have had friendly relations with the front desk at most of my positions. And we literally didn't know each other's names. Still nice when they notice a dropped thing of mine. And I didn't get too many chances to help them. Did where I could. And a smile and general conversation is not exactly easy, but you don't get good at things without practice. Heck, janitorial staff should get more than ignored. So yeah, odd to drop into such a divide.