Well, there is being an asshole when immediately being understood is critical/important (i.e., we're cooking here, skip the niceties--I think this actually incr

Well, there is being an asshole when immediately being understood is critical/important (i.e., we're cooking here, skip the niceties--I think this actually increases trust and honest communication) and then there is being an asshole because you're a cranky old fart who doesn't know any other way to communicate and/or enjoys exploiting others by making them uncomfortable.