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agreed in general! however, thats the crucial point for me. example: time with kids. when there are tradeoffs everywhere, and assume I am in the more money/le

agreed in general! however, thats the crucial point for me. example: time with kids. when there are tradeoffs everywhere, and assume I am in the more money/less time spectrum, there are situations where I simply have to kill time with the kids or get them engaged somehow. Its not quality time at all, its mostly a distraction while other duties are piling up on top. I feel guilty, and the kids probably won't have a great time. This is a vastly different situation when there are no conflicting duties in that moment, and I can freely decide to spent quality time with them, and be creative upfront about what cool endeavor we could tackle together. The point is that I want to be always in the latter state, without making any sacrifices on amenities/comfort because of that. Aligning everything perfectly in todays world as-is basically means hitting the lottery jackpot. The high paying jobs are either bullshit/boring or the good ones extremely rare, there are market reasons why they're paid highly in most cases after all. So its either sucking it up or make sacrifices elsewhere.

silverquiet 2y ago
Yes, almost no one gets to have it all, but if you could go back and change anything, would you?
- anonyfox 2y ago
  Definitely, quite a few things, especially related to career. Which then would change subsequent things I did and had to make decisions that might be rational today but still feel wrong. Basically I played the current game with the hand given to me as good as possible, and quite successful measured by some standards. But most things still feel utterly useless after all, even though well paid. Can fully reasonate with the "bullshit jobs" narrative. _So many_ people are desperately trying to extract money from a system without providing any substantial value to society beyond a vague narrative, argumented as "if its useless nobody would pay for it!" that doesn't really reflect reality today.
  - silverquiet 2y ago
    > Basically I played the current game with the hand given to me as good as possible That seems to be at odds with the thought that you would have done things differently. Obviously knowing how the cards fell in retrospect, it's easy to be a Monday morning quarterback so to speak. I used to work a job I considered bullshit, and I changed to something that feels more real. It didn't exactly make a new man out of me, but it's helped a lot with the feelings you're describing. I wouldn't rule it out for yourself.
    - anonyfox 2y ago
      Thanks for those kind words, much appreciated! Personally I am like 9 years away from FIRE, so there is some light at the end of the tunnel, but still bitter about the whole system, especially when thinking about the future for my kids.

silverquiet 2y ago

Yes, almost no one gets to have it all, but if you could go back and change anything, would you?

anonyfox 2y ago
Definitely, quite a few things, especially related to career. Which then would change subsequent things I did and had to make decisions that might be rational today but still feel wrong. Basically I played the current game with the hand given to me as good as possible, and quite successful measured by some standards. But most things still feel utterly useless after all, even though well paid. Can fully reasonate with the "bullshit jobs" narrative. _So many_ people are desperately trying to extract money from a system without providing any substantial value to society beyond a vague narrative, argumented as "if its useless nobody would pay for it!" that doesn't really reflect reality today.
- silverquiet 2y ago
  > Basically I played the current game with the hand given to me as good as possible That seems to be at odds with the thought that you would have done things differently. Obviously knowing how the cards fell in retrospect, it's easy to be a Monday morning quarterback so to speak. I used to work a job I considered bullshit, and I changed to something that feels more real. It didn't exactly make a new man out of me, but it's helped a lot with the feelings you're describing. I wouldn't rule it out for yourself.
  - anonyfox 2y ago
    Thanks for those kind words, much appreciated! Personally I am like 9 years away from FIRE, so there is some light at the end of the tunnel, but still bitter about the whole system, especially when thinking about the future for my kids.