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Absolutely. With social animals, we have a name for what is missing: “socialization.” For so many men, they seem to have gotten the basic training but never f
by shermantanktop 2y ago
Absolutely. With social animals, we have a name for what is missing: “socialization.”
For so many men, they seem to have gotten the basic training but never finished the course. It’s the process of discovering that other people are different than you, that your unfiltered thoughts are bothersome to others, and that treating others as objects or targets will make you a pariah.
And the internet doesn’t prevent socialization, it substitutes it with an online version which fails to do the full job.
Go watch some movies from the 1930s or 1940s to see how expectations of men have changed. Yes, they are movies and idealized. But acting like an ass and then talking about why nobody will date you was not on the menu.
- fsckboy 2y agomovies from the 30's and 40's are filled with male ego stroking and routine and casual misogyny.
- _yb2s 2y agoTrue but not mutually exclusive with having social finesse, e.g. being “suave.”
- shermantanktop 2y agoExactly.
- shermantanktop 2y agoSure, and racism, and lots of other bad stuff. Doesn’t mean the bar for being a functioning male in society has fallen through the floor since then. My point was that the contrast is striking, not that 1940 was a time we should go back to.