You're right I don't know what other people experience... it is a mystery to me why some many adults don't seem to do much. If I ask them they'll say they just

You're right I don't know what other people experience... it is a mystery to me why some many adults don't seem to do much. If I ask them they'll say they just don't want to- but why don't they want to? Apparently doing the same stuff is much harder for me, having ADHD, yet I do it and they don't- and I don't understand why they don't. That said, I know people that are as motivated and skilled as I am but don't have ADHD, and they are more successful than me- although in that case I am comparing myself to really a minuscule group of people. And almost none of them have kids or hobbies. I have been very successful in my career, and it sound like you have also, but with an enormous amount of effort relative to the outcome. I have spent months stressed about getting work done and getting no work done. I had entire terms in undergrad where I did zero homework, and was nearly kicked out. It wasn't that I was slacking off, I was under enormous stress trying to do the thing, and not doing it. I agree the label of ADHD isn't perfect, and groups a lot of potentially different things together- but it is the best we have been able to do so far, and it works. By grouping people together by a criteria we can develop treatments that apply to that group, study them, and use the ones that work best. Hopefully it will continue to evolve and improve. As far as the school system- it was a living nightmare for me, and apparently for most people with ADHD, but I don't think most people feel that way. Most adults I talk to loved school, attend high school reunions, etc. There is no societal consensus that it sucks and needs to be fixed, no energy for the coordination that would be required. This might be another place where the ADHD label is useful - if we can prove that it sucks for people with ADHD, they will have pressure to fix it, or else be refusing to make it accessible for a disabled group. You need to look at political and social realities to see where you can actually make things better for people with your effort, not how it should be ideally.