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It however requires no evidence to suggest that the problem is having children without sufficient time and resources to support them will lead to poor outcomes.
by abofh 2y ago
It however requires no evidence to suggest that the problem is having children without sufficient time and resources to support them will lead to poor outcomes.
If you want to protect your children, you have to be able to take those steps, not outsource the responsibility to someone else with time and money.
Predators are bad, but most of them are known to the child before the injury -- that suggests parents are way more responsible for child abuse than randos on the internet, it's just that randos have more opportunities.
- newswasboring 2y ago> It however requires no evidence to suggest that the problem is having children without sufficient time and resources to support them will lead to poor outcomes. This is such an infuriatingly bad victim blaming comment that I can't believe it's on this forum.
- abofh 2y agoNobodies blaming the victim - that was the assertion of the problem by you. If you have children you can't support, don't blame society that you're having trouble supporting them. It's callous maybe, but remember the victims are the children, not the parents. The parents created the problem
- newswasboring 2y agoThat's not even remotely what I asserted. I'm asserting even if I had all the time in the world the I can't fight the forces of billionaires creating ever more sophisticated tools of communication by training my children.
- abofh 2y ago> ... children can combat all that with training from over worked and underpayed parents Parenting rule 1? Show up. The thing overworked parents don't have? Time. Hence my entire point- if you don't have the time for kids, its not on society to fix absenteeism. If you're not spending time with your kids, they're exposed to others, so the overworked or inattentive? Their children are the victims. Those are the ones who should have parents in their lives paying attention to them and reinforcing good values. Society can't be forced to babysit everyone who had kids but couldn't commit the time to it . It takes a village - and we will pick you and your kids up when you trip -- but if you spend 20 years not raising your kid, it aint our fault.
- newswasboring 2y agoDid you not read anything else I wrote and only focused on one thing?
- abofh 2y agoDo you understand that what you're writing is repeatedly saying it's everyone else's fault? The people screaming think of the children are almost always the ones I want nowhere near children.
- newswasboring 2y agoI find your implication petty offensive, but moving on. I'm advocating for giving parents tools to "show up" as you say. I don't know wtf you are advocating for.
- abofh 2y agoChildren. Always the children - you're advocating for parents to delegate their responsibilities. I'm advocating for children. There's no implication, I'm being quite explicit - protect the children -- especially from bad parents.