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I remember seeing the reaction to this on Twitter. For the most part, it was actual lesbian women who were furious about HER banning users who politely stated i

I remember seeing the reaction to this on Twitter. For the most part, it was actual lesbian women who were furious about HER banning users who politely stated in their profiles that they're not interested in dating males. The bait-and-switch of inviting males to what was previously advertised as a lesbian dating space was of course already unpopular, but kicking actual lesbians off the platform for asserting their sexual orientation was what definitively crossed the line into a larger backlash. It wasn't really anything much to do with conservatives / right-wingers, even if some of them did pass comment when word spread of how lesbian women were being treated by this app.

jfengel 2y ago
I'm not a woman, much less a lesbian, so I can't speak for them. I do know that they are going to get stuck either way. It is undoubtedly true that people have the right to have preferences. Some preferences are taboo to state. You don't have to date black women, but there is no language to say that without running into a history that includes a lot of violence. Lesbians date very differently from straight women, and I wouldn't presume to tell them their business. But it wouldn't surprise me if their best play was to forbid that kind of language, and just ask people to not accept offers they don't want. Of course if there are men pretending to be trans women, that is a different story. Harassment is always wrong. In real life the number of men pretending to be trans women is small to the point of non-existent. Trolling is safer online, so they will have to moderate that the hard way.
- flexibil 2y ago
  > Some preferences are taboo to state. Yes and I find it troubling that homosexuality is now in this category. That a lesbian will be reprimanded for stating she's not interested in males is an awfully regressive step back towards when same-sex sexual orientation had to be hidden away and closeted.

jfengel 2y ago

I'm not a woman, much less a lesbian, so I can't speak for them. I do know that they are going to get stuck either way. It is undoubtedly true that people have the right to have preferences. Some preferences are taboo to state. You don't have to date black women, but there is no language to say that without running into a history that includes a lot of violence. Lesbians date very differently from straight women, and I wouldn't presume to tell them their business. But it wouldn't surprise me if their best play was to forbid that kind of language, and just ask people to not accept offers they don't want. Of course if there are men pretending to be trans women, that is a different story. Harassment is always wrong. In real life the number of men pretending to be trans women is small to the point of non-existent. Trolling is safer online, so they will have to moderate that the hard way.

flexibil 2y ago
> Some preferences are taboo to state. Yes and I find it troubling that homosexuality is now in this category. That a lesbian will be reprimanded for stating she's not interested in males is an awfully regressive step back towards when same-sex sexual orientation had to be hidden away and closeted.