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Others have already given good advice of the form "leave the company", etc. I don't disagree. But consider, maybe he explains things like he does regardless of

Others have already given good advice of the form "leave the company", etc. I don't disagree. But consider, maybe he explains things like he does regardless of who he is talking to? Sometimes the best explanation for a junior developer is also the best explanation for a senior developer. Do you have any other reasons to believe he disrespects you? You probably want to tell your boss "stop disrespecting me and giving me junior level explanations, stop being patronizing". Of course, you can't just say this... or can you? You can probably find a way to say this if you "grease it" with enough respect. Find a way to be honest and respectful. Maybe something like "I appreciate your explanation, but I'm having a hard time following. I think it would help if we could talk about things in higher-level terms I'm already familiar with, I already know what an API is so we can just talk about API's without going into more detail, the extra detail is distracting me from the thing I want an answer about, etc." Just trying to give some advice that might help if you want to stay. But again, leaving might be the right choice too. Your call. It would help if you would be a little more concrete about what and how he speaks.

pan69 2y ago
> But consider, maybe he explains things like he does regardless of who he is talking to? I think this might be key. If he talks to everyone, or most people, this way then you should be able to make it less personal. Regardless, it might be good to start doing 1:1's with your manager. I get the impression that this isn't something that is part of your company culture? But doing a fortnightly 30 minute session where you talk about "stuff" (not specifically work stuff) can help build a relationship between the two of you. You say you're in the business for 20 or so years, when you interview for a new role have you ever had the question asked along the lines of: Have you ever encountered a difficult problem at work and how did you solve that problem? Well, here it is. Rather than leaving, try to solve this problem. It will be difficult and you will have to get out of your comfort zone. But I think you might want to look at this as a growth opportunity instead. Good luck!

pan69 2y ago

> But consider, maybe he explains things like he does regardless of who he is talking to? I think this might be key. If he talks to everyone, or most people, this way then you should be able to make it less personal. Regardless, it might be good to start doing 1:1's with your manager. I get the impression that this isn't something that is part of your company culture? But doing a fortnightly 30 minute session where you talk about "stuff" (not specifically work stuff) can help build a relationship between the two of you. You say you're in the business for 20 or so years, when you interview for a new role have you ever had the question asked along the lines of: Have you ever encountered a difficult problem at work and how did you solve that problem? Well, here it is. Rather than leaving, try to solve this problem. It will be difficult and you will have to get out of your comfort zone. But I think you might want to look at this as a growth opportunity instead. Good luck!