That's not a very kind interpretation of the parent comment - a bit reductionist, don't you think? I personally don't believe it's possible to "give out" kindn

That's not a very kind interpretation of the parent comment - a bit reductionist, don't you think? I personally don't believe it's possible to "give out" kindness, compassion, friendship solely from an utilitarian position. It would either be fake, and people feel the difference and the desired effect does not follow, or your utilitarian position is a front, in order to justify being kind to unkind people around you judging you.