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"Tough love" is kind but not nice. There doesn't seem to be a good phrase for the opposite in English but there should be.
by delichon 2y ago
"Tough love" is kind but not nice. There doesn't seem to be a good phrase for the opposite in English but there should be.
- seneca 2y agoThe book Radical Candor calls the opposite "ruinous empathy".
- AgentOrange1234 2y agoDefinitely a good book. As someone who is very prone to ruinous empathy, the mantra, “it isn’t mean, it’s clear” has been very helpful for giving me the courage to raise issues earlier, when they are not a big deal.
- delichon 2y agoFeeding my dog as much as ... tough love: I think she needs. ruinous empathy: she thinks she needs.
- hooverd 2y agoUnfortunately "though love" as practiced is mostly just an excuse to be an asshole.
- cocacola1 2y agoSame with “brutally honest”, where the one saying it is more about the “brutally” than the “honest”.
- navane 2y agoVirtue signaling is definitely adjecent
- seadan83 2y agoThinking of cats/dogs - euthanasia seems to also be a good fit for "kind, but not nice"