I think one of the difficulties is that someone can, say, adopt this "The Kind Framework", and appear aligned on values and awarenesses with someone who appears

I think one of the difficulties is that someone can, say, adopt this "The Kind Framework", and appear aligned on values and awarenesses with someone who appears the same way. Then the second person is blindsided when the first person goes and does something utterly selfish, as soon as the opportunity presents itself. And the first person is baffled that anyone wouldn't expect someone to do that, since they assume anyone would do the selfish thing. And they still think of themselves as a kind person. Where their definition of kind is presenting a certain vibe exterior. I call the first person a "sunny sociopath", after characters we'd often see in TV shows set in California.