I am generally considered to be a kind and helpful person. There are many situations where a kindness turns to an expectation, which leads to entitlement: sudd

I am generally considered to be a kind and helpful person. There are many situations where a kindness turns to an expectation, which leads to entitlement: suddenly you are the bad guy if you don't go above and beyond. Being helpful around people who view work as a zero sum game is a recipe for disaster. This article also reframes "things you should do because it's an advantage to you" as kindness.