I wholeheartedly agree that background checks don't survive contact with a conniving human hell bent on doing what they want. I've also never subscribed to tech

I wholeheartedly agree that background checks don't survive contact with a conniving human hell bent on doing what they want. I've also never subscribed to technical solution to social problems. I perhaps should have been more clear in my post that I was aiming for social solutions rather than purely technical. I know I can't protect either my kids, or the kids I look after for ever. I just want to give them enough of a heads up to stop the 95% attack. As in, if I've done my job well enough, they won't be sending photos of themselves[1], or giving out home addresses, or believing that the other person is someone to be feared or obeyed. You're also spot on about passwords. As a reformed Sysadmin, who used to work in a place with airgapped networks, I will be more than a little proud when/if my kids break part of the security. (assuming its not just social engineering my partner) I'll also be worried. One of the teachers who I looked up to at school was acquitted of sexual misconduct with someone who I knew well. One of the worries is that someone who is a family friend(other other privileged position) does something like that to one of my children. Worse still either me missing it, or most painful of all them, not feeling able to talk to anyone about it to stop it. Please read this as me casting judgment, minimising, solutionising, disputing or dismissing what happened to you. That is very much not my intention! [1] perhaps a forlorn hope in the longrun