Perfectionism isn't about quality, that's the illusion: it isn't anyone sincerely trying to make something perfect. Depending on the type, it can be about contr

Perfectionism isn't about quality, that's the illusion: it isn't anyone sincerely trying to make something perfect. Depending on the type, it can be about control; or on tasks, as with this article, it's typically just a disguise for avoidance. It doesnt make sense to argue with a perfectionist about how to make something perfect. That completely misses the point. They have no interest in making it perfect, nor any notion of what it being perfect would even be like. In the vast majority of cases, it's avoidance. In any case, when people beat their children it is because they aren't doing what they "are supposed to do" and is very much connected with perfectionism. Children grow up worried to fail to meet some parental standard. When they apply this beating-themseleves-up means of self-motivation to some tasks this can cause avoidance, because the tasks spiral into ever more delusional levels of importance and difficulty. The solution to this sort of perfectionism is emotional. It is engaging with what a person is afraid of, what's causing their avoidance, what part of them is being "triggered" by the task, and working backwards from a completed state, etc. A perfectionist, in many ways, wants to argue about how to perfect a task; this just enables more avoidance; and indeed, confirms their fears.