> Can you not symmetrically say that it's quite the cultural statement that porn outperforms most women on how to be attractive to men? The difference is that

> Can you not symmetrically say that it's quite the cultural statement that porn outperforms most women on how to be attractive to men? The difference is that people who don't have sex without emotional connection aren't forgoing it because they don't know how; they're just choosing not to. No one goes on dates intending to be a draining person to interact with, so there's something lacking there in terms of their ability to provide what others are looking for. To be clear, none of this is inherently tied to gender; it even applies just as well to non-heterosexual dating. That being said, I don't think it's particularly uncommon for most people's experience to be that they encounter far more heterosexual men than women who cite their central problem in dating to be not finding anyone who will have sex with them. Assuming that trend is accurate, there's not really any explanation more plausible than men generally just being less capable of providing women are looking for in a man than vice-versa.