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I wonder if this is why people are uncomfortable with autistic people. Some subtle details of behavior are missing and they can't identify what because all the
by EnigmaFlare 2y ago
I wonder if this is why people are uncomfortable with autistic people. Some subtle details of behavior are missing and they can't identify what because all the superficial features may be present. They'll tolerate it for a little while but eventually get sick of not being able to relax and accept the person as fitting into any desirable or known type of personality.
Perhaps moving to a foreign country makes it easier because you're obviously different - like a cartoon character or upside-down Thatcher.
- Tknl 2y agoI can confirm it does. Although I moved to a country with more direct auti friendly communication (USA to NL) and only recently realized I'm likely on the spectrum and this heavily motivated my desire to move here where communication is much more direct.
- lupire 2y agoAnother option is to learn to pay attention and learn to understand the cues the individual does display. Similar to learning any new to you culture. Likewise with learning to correctly interpret "resting bitch face" in a non mysogynistic way.
- EnigmaFlare 2y agoThe people who would do the learning aren't the people suffering from being misunderstood so they won't. I feel like I've improved at detecting fake smiles though, and am more comfortable seeing resting bitch face or real grumpy face than a fake smile that might be hiding hostility.
- gigaflop 2y agoI'm high enough functioning, but still get certain minor anxiety pangs around those who are more actively presenting. I feel a bit bad about it, especially when I know from personal experience that they're mostly normal and well-meaning enough.