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'social suicide' is a vague term but my daughter has been spending a fair amount of this summer break texting groups of friends and/or playing online multi-play

'social suicide' is a vague term but my daughter has been spending a fair amount of this summer break texting groups of friends and/or playing online multi-player games with friends. Nothing good would come of my taking away her phone.

wonderwonder 2y ago
yeah, I limit video game time for my kids but don't take it away as that's how they play with their friends currently. So outside time and sports during the day and I let them have game time with friends after dinner. Seems to be a good balance
- nineplay 2y ago
  It obviously depends on circumstance - she doesn't have endless phone time but it's summer and this week she has few other plans. I don't wish her only social interaction to be on her phone but the fact remains that if I took it away forever it would mostly impact her ability to play with her friends. I don't personally believe that it would be good for her mental health.
  - wonderwonder 2y ago
    Yup, I agree. Kids need to be able to talk with friends. Especially over summer when they cant always see them in person at school. I have zero issues with phones, its just the social media apps I am against. My kids have a Facetime video chat they all jump on while they game so they can see each other and talk, pretty great actually.
hot_gril 2y ago
Idk how to say this exactly, but one thing I've learned from playing online MP games is that people aren't socializing on them, they're just being antisocial as a group.
- nineplay 2y ago
  I'm sure it varies. The peals of laughter coming from her room suggest her experience is different.
  - randomdata 2y ago
    I laugh at the funny HN comments. It is still a solitary activity.
  - hot_gril 2y ago
    It depends on whether the laughter is about the game itself or some personal experience a friend has shared over VC. Cause the loudest room on our dorm floor was always the League+Melee room, and it wasn't cause they were sharing funny stories, it was because Falcon did a moonwalk short-hop reverse-knee fast-fall L-cancel.
    - nineplay 2y ago
      They are laughing because someone got killed by Glitch. Fortunately I do have conversations with my kid.
- Spivak 2y ago
  That's a function of the games you play. Online games are a 3rd space for hanging out with your friends. Like sure if all you're doing is joining public matches on CoD or whatever then yeah it's pretty antisocial but hoping on Discord with your friends and playing Minecraft / Roblox / Fortnite / the current meme game de jour then it's a great time. My friends and I currently have a long-running game of Don't Starve Together going. And it's one of the few activities you can do with friends when you're stuck home on a school night.
  - hot_gril 2y ago
    Oh our main thing was Minecraft. Must be the longest running popular video game ever.

wonderwonder 2y ago

yeah, I limit video game time for my kids but don't take it away as that's how they play with their friends currently. So outside time and sports during the day and I let them have game time with friends after dinner. Seems to be a good balance

nineplay 2y ago
It obviously depends on circumstance - she doesn't have endless phone time but it's summer and this week she has few other plans. I don't wish her only social interaction to be on her phone but the fact remains that if I took it away forever it would mostly impact her ability to play with her friends. I don't personally believe that it would be good for her mental health.
- wonderwonder 2y ago
  Yup, I agree. Kids need to be able to talk with friends. Especially over summer when they cant always see them in person at school. I have zero issues with phones, its just the social media apps I am against. My kids have a Facetime video chat they all jump on while they game so they can see each other and talk, pretty great actually.

hot_gril 2y ago

Idk how to say this exactly, but one thing I've learned from playing online MP games is that people aren't socializing on them, they're just being antisocial as a group.

nineplay 2y ago
I'm sure it varies. The peals of laughter coming from her room suggest her experience is different.
- randomdata 2y ago
  I laugh at the funny HN comments. It is still a solitary activity.
- hot_gril 2y ago
  It depends on whether the laughter is about the game itself or some personal experience a friend has shared over VC. Cause the loudest room on our dorm floor was always the League+Melee room, and it wasn't cause they were sharing funny stories, it was because Falcon did a moonwalk short-hop reverse-knee fast-fall L-cancel.
  - nineplay 2y ago
    They are laughing because someone got killed by Glitch. Fortunately I do have conversations with my kid.
Spivak 2y ago
That's a function of the games you play. Online games are a 3rd space for hanging out with your friends. Like sure if all you're doing is joining public matches on CoD or whatever then yeah it's pretty antisocial but hoping on Discord with your friends and playing Minecraft / Roblox / Fortnite / the current meme game de jour then it's a great time. My friends and I currently have a long-running game of Don't Starve Together going. And it's one of the few activities you can do with friends when you're stuck home on a school night.
- hot_gril 2y ago
  Oh our main thing was Minecraft. Must be the longest running popular video game ever.