I see all kinds of small communities related to programming languages, YouTube creator, frontend frameworks, ... These look fun but I never have time to engage

I see all kinds of small communities related to programming languages, YouTube creator, frontend frameworks, ... These look fun but I never have time to engage one for long enough to feel like I belong there as a member of that community opposed to just a temporary visitor. I noticed that Discord is usually the platform of choice but I can see some using other platforms, the platform doesn't really matter much, and it's nice to know you can always drop by to ask questions. But for some reason when it's Discord I imagine it's only kids on the other side, for better or worse. "I love inside jokes. I hope to be a part of one someday" -- Michael Scott