I think it also speaks to one's mindset when they talk about people that way. If I invite someone for a meal I want to know what their preferences but especial

I think it also speaks to one's mindset when they talk about people that way. If I invite someone for a meal I want to know what their preferences but especially what their food allergies and intolerances are so I can make something they'll be able to eat and enjoy. I don't eat meat (I must be a "blue" household then according to parent) so I just eat whatever is there that doesn't have meat in it but if people know I'm a vegetarian and make a meat alternative that's great but not necessary. I'm not making a fuss about it but then again I'm not very confrontational, just isn't worth it. Parent is probably different and seems to know people who aren't like that.