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because there's a necessary baseline to be considered an adult ? if you can't manage to earn a living after I'm dead how will you survive ? if you're not alive
by gryn 2y ago
because there's a necessary baseline to be considered an adult ?
if you can't manage to earn a living after I'm dead how will you survive ? if you're not alive, how will you manage to even try to be happy ?
I say this as someone who seen relatives and acquaintances try the just be happy approach with their children. now the children are close to their 40 and still not self sufficient and nowhere close to happy either.
- TheOtherHobbes 2y agoThe point of the studies is that this kind of parental pressure makes it harder to earn a living. Not easier. But when these parental and educational practices are clearly linked to addictions and emotional/mental health issues, parents and schools should certainly be asking themselves what they're doing. And why. Of course there's a balance between pushing too hard and not pushing at all, and between worthless-if-you-don't-win culture and get-a-prize-for-breathing culture. A friend of mine used to say that the perfect job was just challenging enough to be interesting, but not so challenging it was overwhelming, and not so unchallenging it was boring and pointless. Parenting is similar. There has to be some challenge and some unconditional support, but not an extreme of either. It's hard.
- gryn 2y agoYes, I agree. What I wrote was in defense of GP commenter who was downvoted at the time, not against the article. As with most things in life both too little and too much can have negative effects. The Hard part is figuring out where that middle values range lies for each task.