If you don't instill the proper values (and I'm not saying you can, but you have to try), your kid will grow up and think he/she could have done better, and be

If you don't instill the proper values (and I'm not saying you can, but you have to try), your kid will grow up and think he/she could have done better, and be unhappy. As the parent comment says: it's a balance, and it's a difficult one.