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Most couples just can't be happy
- 082349872349872 2y agocf https://thingstoread.substack.com/p/most-couples-are-happy https://thingstoread.substack.com/p/most-couples-are-happy As far as I can tell from fiction (and even some nonfiction!) from prior centuries, having strong societal* expectations of permanent marriage doesn't do much for happiness, but does do a lot to normalise infidelity. * it also seems evident that what we call "societal expectations" were most strongly held by certain layers of their societies, and other layers were much more willing to shrug and say "life goes on", "you never can tell", etc. Lagniappe: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b5AJUkDcLIU https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b5AJUkDcLIU (when I was much younger I thought this was a sad —consider the tune reprised— ending; although the cinematography has not changed I have and I now consider it a happy —if not entirely American— ending)
- tuatoru 2y agoExtra-partnership paternity has risen greatly since no-fault divorce was legalised. In the West. In Japan, not so much. The children aren't better off.
- 082349872349872 2y agoDo you have any better search terms than "extra-partnership paternity" "no-fault divorce"? Thanks!