My salient point above was if you are willing to learn from your mistakes. If you keep repeating the same behaviour, you're never going to get a different outc

My salient point above was if you are willing to learn from your mistakes. If you keep repeating the same behaviour, you're never going to get a different outcome. In my first marriage, we argued and fought practically every day. I felt I had 'to win' otherwise 'I would lose'. That's a short cut to failure and divorce. In my second marriage, my policy was to cut off any argument at the source. My second wife was of the same opinion. In 36 years together, and 32 years of marriage, we never had a full-blown argument. Terse words, yes. But an argument was never permitted by either of us. I lost her last week.