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Based on your several lifetimes of failed marriages? That's sarcastic, but it seems pretty weird to think your opinion applies so clearly to every situation ot

• toomuchtodo 2y ago
  Don’t take the advice if you feel it does not apply to you. It’s not my 50% of your marital assets, ongoing maintenance (in the case of one friend, until death, tens of thousands of dollars per year), custody and visitation negotiations and ongoing logistics until they’re adults if children are involved, etc. Sometimes you’re lucky, sometimes you’re not. That’s it. If you feel lucky, enjoy it until you’re not. When the luck runs out, there will be pain. Maybe the luck doesn’t run out, but the data should make you cautious and take pause considering the risk involved. I don’t conjure the failure rates, I simply observe them and the outcomes. You can do everything right and the other person is still out the door, through no fault of your own. People grow and/or change, sometimes not together. You can love and be with someone just fine without a marriage. I know of many relationships that are just that. Being married doesn’t make it more real or special, nor will it keep someone around whose investment in the relationship has dropped to zero. I have yet to have someone be disappointed with the advice I’ve given, so I keep providing it, iterating whenever possible to help others optimize for happiness and favorable life outcomes.