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I've had a few humble pie experiences: When I was young I set myself on a path to become a professional string musician. I practiced relentlessly and sat secti
by bane 2y ago
I've had a few humble pie experiences:
When I was young I set myself on a path to become a professional string musician. I practiced relentlessly and sat section lead and first chair in about 4 different school and local orchestras. I was relatively well known as the studious musician kid and there were some hopes that I was "going to go all the way".
Then I had a rough tryout for a regional orchestra, made it, but sat second to last in the section. Sitting last place was another player from my school who was decidedly "middling" in his skills. I was absolutely shattered. But then came to realize most of the players ranked higher than me were objectively better. I also realized that there was physically no way that I could add more practice time and we didn't have the resources to hire better private coaches. I simply didn't have the talent to "go pro".
I realized then that my dreams were never going to happen and I ended up spending several years in limbo before ending up in technology.
I'm actually happy I didn't end up in music, because now I get to putz around and make a few songs a year as a fun and fulfilling hobby, instead of being decades in, making next to nothing and trying to fill in the gaps with second jobs and private lessons. I also went on a few short tours and really disliked playing the same music over and over again.
Tech has been more interesting and I've had opportunities to have very large impacts in a few places that have given me immense satisfaction instead.
- ahfeah7373 2y agoHow did you handle accepting your dreams would never happen?
- bane 2y agoI was sad and directionless (sometimes angry) for a few years. Then one day something sort of "clicked" and a new direction I wanted to go sort of crystalized, I pursued it and never looked back. It helps that I can still pursue music as a hobby and don't feel the relentless pressure to be good -- so these days I actually get to enjoy many aspects of my dream when I feel like it and it stays fun.