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Meetups are extremely variable in attendance. There's always a minimum flake rate. Spaces like restaurants or cafes do not like it if you'd book for 20 and Max

Meetups are extremely variable in attendance. There's always a minimum flake rate. Spaces like restaurants or cafes do not like it if you'd book for 20 and Max 10 showed up. That's a good way to not be welcome again. So places that can accommodate variable people is better. However, that does mean more time scoping out the capacity at the general time of the meeting. Going there 8am is irrelevant when the meetups at 7pm. The atmosphere and ambience is important as well. A venue with insane echo is atrocious, or one a bit too busy. Too noisy in terms of the crowd or the music speakers are directly above the tables. For conversational meetups, these are make or break things.

langsoul-com 2y ago
So all this time and effort is just to maximise the probability of success. Despite all this, a fucking monsoon hits an hour before your event. Nobody is coming and you'd be there, at the venue, all alone with several tables connected... The most miserable position. And I'm not even started with actually hosting the event, with different personalities, mix between people who know each other and those who don't. You know how 3's a crowd? Well, a crowd becomes a separated tribe in meetups and tend only to really interact between each other... Bruh, the entire point of the Meetup is to meet OTHER people. They could just go out for lunch if they only wanted to chill by themselves. So part of the hosting game is integrating everyone together, whether it's the solo, couple or group. And make sure there's no flame wars as people believe in different shit and have wildly different reactions to what's said. You know the book, how to make friends and influence people. Need another edition for how to meet up and host an event without everything burning up!
- portaouflop 2y ago
  Events are like art. Very nice and we need them both - but a lot of work (that is usually poorly or not at all rewarded)
- arp242 2y ago
  Just hanging out with three people is normal behaviour; sometimes the three of you are just having the craic and that's fine. That's being social. No one is being hurt. Hosts that have a notion of how people "should" behave and then try to force everyone into this are just the worst.

langsoul-com 2y ago

So all this time and effort is just to maximise the probability of success. Despite all this, a fucking monsoon hits an hour before your event. Nobody is coming and you'd be there, at the venue, all alone with several tables connected... The most miserable position. And I'm not even started with actually hosting the event, with different personalities, mix between people who know each other and those who don't. You know how 3's a crowd? Well, a crowd becomes a separated tribe in meetups and tend only to really interact between each other... Bruh, the entire point of the Meetup is to meet OTHER people. They could just go out for lunch if they only wanted to chill by themselves. So part of the hosting game is integrating everyone together, whether it's the solo, couple or group. And make sure there's no flame wars as people believe in different shit and have wildly different reactions to what's said. You know the book, how to make friends and influence people. Need another edition for how to meet up and host an event without everything burning up!

portaouflop 2y ago
Events are like art. Very nice and we need them both - but a lot of work (that is usually poorly or not at all rewarded)
arp242 2y ago
Just hanging out with three people is normal behaviour; sometimes the three of you are just having the craic and that's fine. That's being social. No one is being hurt. Hosts that have a notion of how people "should" behave and then try to force everyone into this are just the worst.