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Confidants, peer, another smart person. I might have 100 friends, but only ~10 people can change my thoughts and only on specific subjects. As I get older, th

Confidants, peer, another smart person. I might have 100 friends, but only ~10 people can change my thoughts and only on specific subjects. As I get older, the more those 100 friends are for enjoyment and happiness. Those 10 people are for growth. I think in my 20s, I took a bit more of a democratic approach. One of the best parts about money, I can pay smart people for consulting.

bowsamic 2y ago
Can you be one of the 10 who change my thoughts regarding your bio: “You can trust FOSS”. Why can I? EDIT: /u/dang banned me for this
- talldayo 2y ago
  Because FOSS has readable code, companies don't.
  - layer8 2y ago
    For some value of “readable”.
    - talldayo 2y ago
      Value it accordingly.
- wizzwizz4 2y ago
  (a) You've misunderstood. It isn't "10 people ever": it's "10 people often". Unless you're requesting an ongoing relationship, the answer is "no". (b) What is trust? Examine the nature of trust, and you will see why "you can trust FOSS" is a truer statement than "you can trust Microsoft software". (Neither are true, in my opinion, but I have a higher standard for "trust".)
  - dumbo-octopus 2y ago
    I happen to trust Microsoft software more than FOSS en-masse. I think Microsoft FOSS software is more trustworthy than either, for instance I have high confidence in VS Code as an editor. It helps that I've read through most of it's code and authored a good chunk of it as well.
    - resource_waste 2y ago
      Seriously: lol Anyway, live a bit longer. I used to be a Microsoft fan too.
      - dumbo-octopus 2y ago
        ? You haven’t made any claims or presented any evidence. I don’t even really know what your position is, besides “I’m old and jaded”.
- boomskats 2y ago
  Gratuitously off topic.
  - bowsamic 2y ago
    This is on topic
- dwaltrip 2y ago
  Hey, I’m only saying this on the off chance that it is helpful. I’m not sure if you are aware, but your question comes off as a little aggressive. Partly because it’s such a diversion from the topic on hand. In my experience, such diversions are often made by people with more passionate or militantly-held opinions. Whenever I catch myself “needing” someome to change their view, I know I’ve gotten off track and should gently tend to whatever is going on under the hood. I don’t really want my well-being or peace of mind to depend on the miscellaneous viewpoints of others.
fragmede 2y ago
What sort of consulting and where do you find them?
wslh 2y ago
That is a search problem. Finding people for consulting is not easy if it is about issues where only a few could know about and they can be living in a very distant place. For example, an unknown university in a country you never though about. Wise people recognize that the concept of smart is easy when you play in a competitive field like chess but the problem is when there is no specific field to benchmark. Could you recognize Steve Jobs capacity if it not were by Apple?
- astrange 2y ago
  > Could you recognize Steve Jobs capacity if it not were by Apple? Depends on the time period, but he had 3 hit companies, and Pixar was the biggest one (for him personally) for a while.
  - wslh 2y ago
    I meant on his early time before Apple.
yzydserd 2y ago
Why can only 10 people change some of your thoughts? I probably only have about 10 friends, but I’m open to any of many billions of people changing my thoughts in profound ways after even fleeting moments. It’s not just an openness but lived experience. (I’m not young).
- resource_waste 2y ago
  Those are more like lottery of ideas. These 10 people, I don't need to scrutinize as much. There is already enough common understanding, you don't need to filter as much.

bowsamic 2y ago

Can you be one of the 10 who change my thoughts regarding your bio: “You can trust FOSS”. Why can I? EDIT: /u/dang banned me for this

talldayo 2y ago
Because FOSS has readable code, companies don't.
- layer8 2y ago
  For some value of “readable”.
  - talldayo 2y ago
    Value it accordingly.
wizzwizz4 2y ago
(a) You've misunderstood. It isn't "10 people ever": it's "10 people often". Unless you're requesting an ongoing relationship, the answer is "no". (b) What is trust? Examine the nature of trust, and you will see why "you can trust FOSS" is a truer statement than "you can trust Microsoft software". (Neither are true, in my opinion, but I have a higher standard for "trust".)
- dumbo-octopus 2y ago
  I happen to trust Microsoft software more than FOSS en-masse. I think Microsoft FOSS software is more trustworthy than either, for instance I have high confidence in VS Code as an editor. It helps that I've read through most of it's code and authored a good chunk of it as well.
  - resource_waste 2y ago
    Seriously: lol Anyway, live a bit longer. I used to be a Microsoft fan too.
    - dumbo-octopus 2y ago
      ? You haven’t made any claims or presented any evidence. I don’t even really know what your position is, besides “I’m old and jaded”.
boomskats 2y ago
Gratuitously off topic.
- bowsamic 2y ago
  This is on topic
dwaltrip 2y ago
Hey, I’m only saying this on the off chance that it is helpful. I’m not sure if you are aware, but your question comes off as a little aggressive. Partly because it’s such a diversion from the topic on hand. In my experience, such diversions are often made by people with more passionate or militantly-held opinions. Whenever I catch myself “needing” someome to change their view, I know I’ve gotten off track and should gently tend to whatever is going on under the hood. I don’t really want my well-being or peace of mind to depend on the miscellaneous viewpoints of others.

fragmede 2y ago

What sort of consulting and where do you find them?

wslh 2y ago

That is a search problem. Finding people for consulting is not easy if it is about issues where only a few could know about and they can be living in a very distant place. For example, an unknown university in a country you never though about. Wise people recognize that the concept of smart is easy when you play in a competitive field like chess but the problem is when there is no specific field to benchmark. Could you recognize Steve Jobs capacity if it not were by Apple?

astrange 2y ago
> Could you recognize Steve Jobs capacity if it not were by Apple? Depends on the time period, but he had 3 hit companies, and Pixar was the biggest one (for him personally) for a while.
- wslh 2y ago
  I meant on his early time before Apple.

yzydserd 2y ago

Why can only 10 people change some of your thoughts? I probably only have about 10 friends, but I’m open to any of many billions of people changing my thoughts in profound ways after even fleeting moments. It’s not just an openness but lived experience. (I’m not young).

resource_waste 2y ago
Those are more like lottery of ideas. These 10 people, I don't need to scrutinize as much. There is already enough common understanding, you don't need to filter as much.