I have been down this road, but the lessons I learn are not the obvious ones. My wife died in chikdbirth, so it was a double whammy. She was in some respects m

I have been down this road, but the lessons I learn are not the obvious ones. My wife died in chikdbirth, so it was a double whammy. She was in some respects my soulmate, but she was also one of the most difficult people I have ever know. Had she not doed, I absolutely know that there is zero chance that we would still be together as a family. We need to tell those we have lost that we have loved them. We also need to thank them and apologize to them. Here is Asia it is easier to talk with the dead, for which I am grateful. However, I eventually learned to accept that we also need to know how to tell them to fuck off and leave us alone. If we fail to learn this, then we pass on their ghosts to those who we go on to love.