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Show HN: Meet people, have more conversations about what truly interests you
Hi all, Andrew here. I hate smalltalk[1] but love deep conversations and want more of them, for myself and for others. This is why I made pairup.social. It's a conversation-finding and friend-finding app based on the things you'd most like to talk about. Sure, you have your friends, colleagues and family you can talk to, but it can be hard to go deep on your unique interests. Finding and reaching out to people on the internet is possible, but in practice I find I don’t really do it that much. It’s a bit awkward. If I found them on a single-topic discussion group, I don’t know much else about them, including other interests or even if they’re open to meeting people at all. None of this is impossible to overcome, but there's enough friction to mostly stop me from doing it. The goal of this app is to make this easy enough that it actually happens.
How it works:
1. Install the iOS or Android app. Sign-in can be deferred until after you’ve tried it out.
2. Add a bunch of links to capture what you are interested in at the moment. These can be links to accounts you follow, communities you've joined, books, movies or podcasts you love, causes you support – anything really. Your links/interests simultaneously describe you to others and enable the app to match you to people with overlapping and compatible interests. Your combination of links can be incredibly specific and nuanced but also very easy to build and maintain (try it!)
3. Complete your minimal profile: one picture, a name, optional bio, and locations you spend time in (if you want to emphasize local matches). Your interests are already a great way to describe you, so this kept very simple.
4. Fuzzy matching occurs. People with overlapping interests (either the same links or other links about the same or similar things) are suggested to you. You can see their interests and decide if you’d like the option to chat with them. Typical mutual-opt-in mechanics result in “pairups” and you can both take it from there and start chatting whenever you’re ready. No pressure, you already have things to talk about.
I'd love it if you gave it a try and let me know what you think!
[1] I did enjoy coding in Smalltalk in a past, past life https://techcrunch.com/2006/03/11/dabbledb-online-app-building-for-everyone/ https://techcrunch.com/2006/03/11/dabbledb-online-app-buildi...
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- _lvbh 2y agoI hope you succeed. I’ve really had trouble finding people interested in tech in my area. Whenever I get stuck on a problem, there’s literally nobody to talk to and I just have to go crawling through decompiled binaries and ancient source code to find a solution.
- ajcatton 2y agoThanks.. I think there are a lot of people in a similar boat. I'd like it to be like turning on a tap to help us all find good matches!
- _lvbh 2y agoSome feedback: - the app should make it more clear when it’s doing something and prevent me from clicking the same thing multiple times while loading (e.g. adding location) - the sign in flow is broken when using a temporary account and then signing in with Apple - make it more clear how pair ups work
- ajcatton 2y agoThanks for trying it out.. that's all super useful. Location adding: I noticed the same thing today, too, and will make that UX more obvious with a spinner.. Sign-in: I'll see if I can reproduce that problem. Clarity around pair-ups: are you wondering how it figures out who to suggest to you, etc? the mechanics of being connected? (it's typical mutual opt-in mechanics fwiw) or what happens after that? I suppose it could be any of these but I'd love to know what was unclear. Thanks again!
- _lvbh 2y ago> Clarity around pair-ups Yeah just have a FAQ or something on the site to make it more obvious how pairings are made. I went around trying to find a discovery system but it seems it’s just automagically done via some algorithm?
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