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Some people don't find someone as good again though. Good spouses/friends/etc are not that replaceable. Or rather, they're replacable practically, but the new
by coldtea 2y ago
Some people don't find someone as good again though. Good spouses/friends/etc are not that replaceable.
Or rather, they're replacable practically, but the new persons are not necessarily offering the same level of connection.
- medstrom 2y agoYou used an interesting view of "practical" :) Deep connection is not just some bonus, I think, but in fact the main practical thing about a relationship. So I share your concern, but even so I'm not that worried. The deeper a connection you've been able to forge in the past, the better your chances of forging another deep connection.
- coldtea 2y agoThis is twofold I think. If having had a deep connection happened because you are in general someone easily capable of deep connection, it would be indeed easier to connect deeply again. But if having a deep connection happened despite you not being such a person, but, e.g., because the person you lost had an equally rare disposition as you, or you lived through special circumstances that bonded you more deeply, it's probably harder to replicate this.